My
good friend, Info Karen, put together today's guest blog post -- not to
confuse anyone but there are two of us living in San Diego. Karen with
an "E" and me - Karin with an "I". Since Info Karen has kids, she
graciously agreed to put together today's guest post for those of you
coming home with kids. If this helped you, please stop by Info when
you're at the gathering and thank her.
Bringing babies
and small children to the Rainbow Gathering can be quite a chore, but
it is also very rewarding, and a wonderful growth experience for them.
But deep woods camping with your kids can be quite a challenge. Being a
Rainbow Mom myself, I was asked, a few years back to pass along some
helpful advice for folks who are bringing their kids for the very first
time. The following article sprang from those requests. I wrote it when
my eldest was 6 and my twin boys were three and potty-training. I’ve
been to the annual Gathering with my first when he was an infant and
when he was 3, and then brought all three of them many times after that.
This is especially directed at first time Gatherers since a few
requests of this type have come my way, but there is lots of good advice
for anyone with kids. Do you have more ideas? Please add them in the
comment section.
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ARRIVAL AND HIKING IN:When
you first arrive at the Gathering, you will be directed to a meadow to
park in, (or perhaps along a road). Hiking in with kids often takes a
couple loads, so having a partner who can either hang with kids or go
get the second load is a huge help. Get a baby carrier of some sort to
carry your littlest ones in. On the first trip into the site, we tend to
bring the kids, the tent and our plates, cups and utensils in the first
load, plus whatever else we can manage. We each will wear a kid on our
backs (we have twins). After figuring out where we want to camp, I will
stay at the tent site with all three kids while the hubby goes out for
another full load. While he is gone I will put the tent up, and perhaps
go exploring with the kids to find a meal, fill our water bottles, and
locate the nearest shitter.

KID VILLAGE:You
can camp anywhere with kids, but it is especially nice to camp at Kid
Village. It is a drug-free, peaceful area that serves three good
kid-friendly meals every day. Kid Village is easy to find. Ask anyone.
When you get to Kid Village ask the folks there where there are some
good tent spots. They will direct you. At Kid Village, they usually
have a little play area with seesaws and swings made from downed trees
and rope. There is also usually a sit-down potty there (people just call
toilet areas "shitters" so sorry if your child goes home spouting that
word!! For adults, shitters are long trenches that you straddle. It’s
nice to wear skirts if you want to have a little privacy cover!) Often
for little children there are small deep cylindrical holes dug so that
the kids don’t have to balance across a trench.
DAILY LIFE:You
will want to bring, for each of you, a water bottle, a dish, a spoon, a
cup and a day pack to carry everything in while you are away from your
tent. If you drink coffee, make your cup a thermal one with a lid. If
you can, put a carabineer on your cup as it’s nice to always have it
hanging from your belt. Each morning, you will want to pack your daypack
for the day and go out wandering. You may head back to the tent for
naptime, but you will want to take your dishes, your water bottle, and
whatever diapers or things you need for the day with you when you leave
your tent in the morning. For dishes, most people bring just a bowl.
But after many years of gathering, I have discovered that the very best
bowl is a tupperware or similar style container with a lid. This way, if
you can't get to a dishwashing station right away after you eat, you
can pop the lid on it and toss it in your bag without dirtying anything
inside your bag. We found plate-shaped containers with three divided
sections which is nice if you get soup and something else. It keeps them
divided. Plates with lids are also good for bringing food back kids, or
storing things they might not eat right away.
DIAPERS: If
you use disposable diapers, I would bring a double thick bag (one
inside the other, to lessen the smell and strengthen the bag) with some
kind of clasp that can be put on and taken off numerous times, to keep
your dirties in. You will need to hike this (very) heavy bag out at the
end, as there are no trash stations inside the gathering. Everyone
carries their own trash out. Depending on how long you stay, a full bag
of dirty diapers can be one whole load! With twins, and ten days in, our
bag was large and difficult to manage. If you use cloth diapers, I
have seen people wash them out in five gallon buckets and hang them on
clotheslines hung between trees. You can get a 5 Gallon bucket for about
3 bucks at large hardware stores. Bring your own clothesline as well.
Kid Village has had a communal diaper wash area in the past but I don’t
think it is a regular thing at all.
FINDING FOOD / DINNER CIRCLE:At
Rainbow the food that is cooked in the kitchens is free for all, and is
purchased with donations to the Magic Hat that lives on the desk at the
Information Booth, and is also carried around every evening at Dinner
Circle in a musical parade. Dinner circle happens every evening in the
Main Meadow. Most larger kitchens will bring their cooked food down to
the dinner circle and serve there. Bring your dishes! People form a
large circle, do a group “Om”, and sit down in circle to be served by
the food servers. Pregnant or nursing Mamas and children (and
non-parents helping children) are asked to come to the center of the
circle before the food is served to get first dibs. Don’t be shy. Come
forward when it is announced and get your kid a plateful of good food!
Breakfast and lunch are often served out of individual kitchens. Kid
Village is a good place to find steady outpouring of food, and if your
kid misses a meal, they can direct you to fixings for a peanut butter
sandwich or a carrot or something. That said, most people like to bring
snacks from home to keep in their tent to keep the kids happy. Dried
fruit, nut butters, jerkey and granola are things many people tend to
bring.
NAPS: For small babies, it’s not common, but I have
seen people bring a playpen and hike it in. That way you can set the
baby down somewhere clean for a while. You might consider bringing one
and leaving it in the car. Then you can decide if you want to hike it in
or not. A lightweight baby floor chair might be a simpler idea, or
perhaps a Moses basket? When I brought my first born to his first
gathering at about seven months old, I put a blanket in a cardboard box I
got from a kitchen! Having walls is nice for a new crawler. A good
ground-blanket made out of something with a water resistant bottom layer
is nice to have. After realizing the cardboard box was nice to have
but not the best choice, the next time I brought a kid’s pop-up backyard
play tent. They pack down tiny and can be used to lay the baby down to
sleep if you are out wandering away from your camp and want to take a
break, or give him/her some shade to rest in. We also napped our eldest
in that for a couple years. It was handy, and kept us from having to go
and sit quietly outside our own tent for 3 hours every single day. We
used to nap our twins separately during the afternoon, because if they
napped together, they would just play in the tent and not sleep.
NECESSITIES:You
should have water bottles you can carry around for your family. You can
fill them up at any kitchen. Look for a giant cooler on the kitchen
counter with a spigot facing out toward the public walk-up area. Bring
sun block, wide brimmed children’s hats, bug spray and sun glasses. We
are bringing those new 200 hour LED flashlights for our littlest boys
who will of course want to have one of their own when they see ours.
They can accidentally leave it on for hours and it won’t use up the
batteries. Sandals that can get wet or water shoes are great for playing
in the stream. When the twins were three years old, and liked to
wander, we brought masking tape and stuck some on the backs of their
shirts saying “IF FOUND PLEASE RETURN TO INFO” where we were camped!
When the kids got older we made sure each kid had his own daypack to
keep track of his things.
TENT SLEEPING: Also bring warm
sleeping bags. It gets down to 40 at night. We always bring thermal
underwear to sleep in, both for us and for them. When our son was a
baby, and we worried about the safety of sleeping bags, we slept him in a
down-filled, winter outdoor snow suit, wearing a hat, with a regular
blanket over him. That way I wasn't worried about losing him down inside
the sleeping bag or about him scooting out into the cold at night.
Beware of using any kind of gas heater inside your tent as the fumes
inside a closed tent can be deadly.
NURSING BABIES:Another
idea I has which turned out to be SUCH A GOOD IDEA, was my homemade
nursing shirts. While still at home, I got a couple long-sleeved thermal
shirts at the thrift store. I cut vertical slits in the front for
nursing, and when I was at the Gathering I would wear these shirts
underneath my regular shirt. The benefit is that on cold days, and
ESPECIALLY on cold nights, I could lift my outer shirt to nurse without
having to expose the sides of my torso to chill air. It was SO much
warmer, and easier to doze when nursing in the middle of the night half
out of a sleeping bag! These shirts might not be so necessary for
eastern Gatherings, but most western Gatherings can get pretty cold at
night.
COMMUNICATION FOR OLDER KIDS:As our kids got older,
and wanted to go off and explore on their own, we went out and got a
good set of FRS radios, one for each of us, and some extra batteries.
These are fairly long range radios. For the kids we put them on lanyards
and hung them around their necks, and sometimes they put them in their
daypacks (although they sometimes would miss our calls if they did
this). A belt loop holster would be a good choice as well. This way, if
they want to stay out longer, or ask a question, they can reach you and
it gives them some more freedom, and the parents some freedom as well!
(Also, they are good for letting the other party know that pizza is just
coming out of the Ovens and that you should hurry on over!)
LASTLY:Have
a blast! It’s a great way to immerse your kids in wild nature! -Info
Karen- (Mom to three exuberant boys) Please comment below with any
questions or great ideas or parent-hacks of your own! Please comment
below with any questions or great ideas or parent-hacks of your own!
There is also a
Kidz Rap available on-line.